tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7071809873569496144.post2252924897968338946..comments2023-07-26T08:48:26.389-04:00Comments on PatientC: The SmartAss Guide to Wheelchair EtiquettePatientChttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13072922979960609393noreply@blogger.comBlogger39125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7071809873569496144.post-20745735252495483412012-10-04T13:28:07.231-04:002012-10-04T13:28:07.231-04:00Etiquette is rapidly becoming a lost art rather th...Etiquette is rapidly becoming a lost art rather than a common skill.PatientChttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13072922979960609393noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7071809873569496144.post-54923999213767094872012-10-04T01:42:22.044-04:002012-10-04T01:42:22.044-04:00Etiquette is very important. It should be taught t...Etiquette is very important. It should be taught to everyone. A person with the right etiquette is just so admirable.Anti Money Launderinghttp://aml-assassin.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7071809873569496144.post-68433046101308959272011-11-12T06:47:55.599-05:002011-11-12T06:47:55.599-05:00Thanks for making this info available. It is so i...Thanks for making this info available. It is so important for people to NOT touch people's chairs. Some people have severe chemical sensitivity to many things including fragrance which is in almost every personal care and laundry product (including ones that say 'unscented' or perfume-free because they often contain "masking fragrance" not listed on the labels!). While Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7071809873569496144.post-80262743913071224872011-06-10T13:43:15.407-04:002011-06-10T13:43:15.407-04:00@ani101 - Thanks for stopping by! Kids are always ...@ani101 - Thanks for stopping by! Kids are always learning (ideally, anyway), and there is no better way to learn disability etiquette than from someone that knows what is what. So I always give some spoons and time to kids that want to learn, if I have them to spare. =)PatientChttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13072922979960609393noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7071809873569496144.post-21294235035503377302011-06-10T13:29:58.490-04:002011-06-10T13:29:58.490-04:00this is all totally true especially the"Do no...this is all totally true especially the"Do not worry about your kids. They are going to ask, and that is totally okay. What is not okay is rudeness. Do not do it, and do not let your kids be rude. The person in the chair will set the limits for what they will and will not discuss with your kids,"part of the articleUchihaCassandrahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09516373211808699129noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7071809873569496144.post-48964446195514431362011-02-08T11:20:45.749-05:002011-02-08T11:20:45.749-05:00Thanks for reading, and replying! I am working on ...Thanks for reading, and replying! I am working on some content. After being a little skittish over so much unexpected readership, and then seeing the horrors some other bloggers have experienced lately, I have been hesitant to get back to it, but I will!PatientChttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13072922979960609393noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7071809873569496144.post-84877326195313157892011-02-02T05:48:27.115-05:002011-02-02T05:48:27.115-05:00I really appreciate your post and you explain each...I really appreciate your post and you explain each and every point very well.Thanks for sharing this information.And I’ll love to read your next post too.wheelchairshttp://www.wheelchairindia.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7071809873569496144.post-67949707570778848982010-10-05T21:12:16.279-04:002010-10-05T21:12:16.279-04:00@yrieithydd -- Thank you for sharing the piece and...@yrieithydd -- Thank you for sharing the piece and for responding for your friend, that was very cool of you.<br /><br />About the ramps: I can stand for short periods of time even when my balance is off and I am fatigued, so in the worst case I will get up to move the chair myself, although I will pay for it later. If I have the energy to be a pain, I will sit there and make someone get PatientChttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13072922979960609393noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7071809873569496144.post-86744385551867189652010-10-05T20:59:50.020-04:002010-10-05T20:59:50.020-04:00@Elly -- I have a really nice Lucite cane, and peo...@Elly -- I have a really nice Lucite cane, and people can't seem to keep their hands off of it. I have on more than one occasion offered to use it as a cudgel, since it is tough and can be cleaned with a damp cloth. =)<br /><br />I am sorry that people seem to be dense everywhere, but I am glad you liked this piece!PatientChttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13072922979960609393noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7071809873569496144.post-49159164512708547472010-10-05T20:55:26.945-04:002010-10-05T20:55:26.945-04:00@numberland - Agreed -- mobility aids should be &q...@numberland - Agreed -- mobility aids should be "hands off" to all but the owner or designated helpers. I have busted up my hands on my manual chair when someone decided that I should go in a direction I either did not expect, or did not want.<br /><br />It seems that there is always someone out there willing to screw things up...PatientChttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13072922979960609393noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7071809873569496144.post-27875840059456086062010-10-01T11:14:59.834-04:002010-10-01T11:14:59.834-04:00I shared this on facebook and a friend has asked m...I shared this on facebook and a friend has asked me to comment on it on her behalf:<br /><br />Hi. Thanks for this post. I've been in a power chair for a year now. I've generally found people treat me ok when they can see me, but I struggle with car drivers and bin men even though there are a significant number of people that use wheelchairs locally... The problem is the way people park Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7071809873569496144.post-21718384107324323002010-09-26T16:42:53.925-04:002010-09-26T16:42:53.925-04:00A couple of additions on touching chairs:
With po...A couple of additions on touching chairs:<br /><br />With powerchairs never, ever touch or lean over the control without permission. A member of staff at a local supermarket did this before I could react and could easily have damaged the chair (the control was activated and I'm glad it was in the lowest setting). Really.<br /><br />The touching the chair applies much more when in motion, whenAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7071809873569496144.post-4627911519091629362010-09-26T10:22:59.126-04:002010-09-26T10:22:59.126-04:00Linked here from the FWD blog, and I love this pos...Linked here from the FWD blog, and I love this post. :-) <br /><br />I would add to the not randomly touching the wheelchair, the not randomly touching walking sticks. I've had people stroke my walking stick without asking me. Yes, it's a beautiful stick, and the handle is shaped like the head of a cormorant. No, that doesn't mean it's okay to touch it without my consent! I'veUnknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00955516610554511404noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7071809873569496144.post-9247017864503956392010-09-24T11:25:41.944-04:002010-09-24T11:25:41.944-04:00@NTE -- Yeah, my first draft was very short: an in...@NTE -- Yeah, my first draft was very short: an intro, and then the "Person. Chair." thing a handful of times! **lol** With kids, they're naturally curious, which is fine, and if they talk to someone in a wheelchair and it goes well, they are more likely to be a grown-up with a clue.<br /><br />Oh, agreed! I should add something about that. I almost got someone's cart in my facePatientChttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13072922979960609393noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7071809873569496144.post-77907643081683584962010-09-24T11:18:34.710-04:002010-09-24T11:18:34.710-04:00@Sewicked -- Sure, sure! Feel free to link away, a...@Sewicked -- Sure, sure! Feel free to link away, and thank you for asking. <br /><br />Wow, thanks!<br /><br />Yeah, some of these things, I couldn't believe they were happening AS they were happening!PatientChttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13072922979960609393noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7071809873569496144.post-41495262768815775352010-09-23T10:41:24.181-04:002010-09-23T10:41:24.181-04:00This is a fantastic post. Your point about Person...This is a fantastic post. Your point about Person. Chair. is one that so many people overlook, and it's pretty damn important. And I am so onboard with the "let kids be kids" portion - a three year old asking a question about me or my chair is 99% less likely (In my experience) to be rude than an adult. <br /><br />And, this may not go with your post, exactly, but sort of NTEhttp://www.neverthateasy.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7071809873569496144.post-71924631725604838272010-09-23T09:16:17.671-04:002010-09-23T09:16:17.671-04:00May I post a link back to your blog from mine? I a...May I post a link back to your blog from mine? I am not 'differently abled', unless you count glasses & a distinct lack of a sense of direction, but this information is so valuable I feel it should be spread far & wide. <br /><br />If just one more person thinks before doing something stupid or rude, then my time and effort (& more to the point, -your- time & effort) have Sewickedhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01687151840720911769noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7071809873569496144.post-53668166603879093222010-09-22T14:44:40.650-04:002010-09-22T14:44:40.650-04:00@brilliantmindbrokenbody -- Great point! Do you mi...@brilliantmindbrokenbody -- Great point! Do you mind if I add it to the article?PatientChttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13072922979960609393noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7071809873569496144.post-86419088157804226162010-09-22T14:35:53.335-04:002010-09-22T14:35:53.335-04:00On the service animals thing -
It's not just...On the service animals thing - <br /><br />It's not just 'don't pet my service dog'. It's don't DISTRACT my service dog. Don't get down on his eye level and baby-talk at him. Don't try to feed him. Don't start blowing kisses at him and talking to him in the 'dog/baby/small child is so cute!' voice. You distract my dog, you endanger me. It's a Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7071809873569496144.post-62701287695874128682010-09-09T20:53:53.111-04:002010-09-09T20:53:53.111-04:00@brittanyannwick Excellent, thank you very much. A...@brittanyannwick Excellent, thank you very much. And you can count on me regularly reading your blog! For some reason, going back to BBS access in '92, it's just been the past year or so where I have combined my social justice passions with the internet. **shakes head**<br /><br />I may write some more about this as it comes to me...<br /><br />@konkonsn Terrific, I read Feministe every PatientChttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13072922979960609393noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7071809873569496144.post-56620299422501985042010-09-09T14:13:22.427-04:002010-09-09T14:13:22.427-04:00I came here from Feministe, and I just want to tha...I came here from Feministe, and I just want to thank you for this post! I've never really thought of concern-trolling, but...I tend to be socially awkward in my interactions with people and overthink what I should do. I tend to be blunt or act like people can talk about sensitive topics reasonably (apparently, if you're under 30, you're not allowed to ask the age of anyone over 30)konkonsnnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7071809873569496144.post-87333037626827445152010-09-09T13:53:47.079-04:002010-09-09T13:53:47.079-04:00Feel free to use my comments. I write about my epi...Feel free to use my comments. I write about my epilepsy and disability on my blog as well, so if you'd like to use that as a resource, you can. Just link back to the post that you used. <br /><br />It is-I've experienced it on more than one occasion, most often from EMTs and ER personnel. Our bodies and minds are different, so in their mind, that translates to their being intellectually Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7071809873569496144.post-53034391759042802162010-09-06T16:33:51.747-04:002010-09-06T16:33:51.747-04:00@brittanyannwick Very good point! I may, if permis...@brittanyannwick Very good point! I may, if permission is available, put comments like these into a further guide on how to usefully interact with disability in general.<br /><br />I do not know what makes people in a position of ignorance become all-knowing concern trolls. I think it is the infantilization of disability.<br /><br />I am really happy with this post, and want to thank everyone PatientChttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13072922979960609393noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7071809873569496144.post-39956769580805160052010-09-06T03:03:06.315-04:002010-09-06T03:03:06.315-04:00If an epileptic has a partial seizure, i.e. a sing...If an epileptic has a partial seizure, i.e. a single slight-to-moderate jerk, don't take that as an invitation to grill the person on their disorder, medication status, or as a cue to condescend to them. Follow the cues of the person on how to react. If they ignore it, go on as if nothing happened. Help them up if they fall (if they need and want assistance). Refrain from asking them over andAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7071809873569496144.post-9746876658491755132010-09-05T22:24:02.675-04:002010-09-05T22:24:02.675-04:00The first thing I want to say is that, in my exper...The first thing I want to say is that, in my experience, it is bad to run over things on purpose. It can screw up your chair, your hands, and your wrists -- so I would not run over anyone on purpose (even when tempted). It takes practice and a knack to keep your eyes far enough ahead to avoid obstacles, and yet also look close enough just in front of your wheels to avoid anything close. Standing PatientChttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13072922979960609393noreply@blogger.com